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The World Needs More Healers—Not More Flakes.
This morning, Elephant Journal published one of my articles, The World Needs More Healers—Not More Flakes, and it is an editor's Pick of The Week!
Here is an excerpt from The World Needs More Healers—Not More Flakes.:
I don’t know how this came to be, but somehow the new age community thinks that one has to be a flake in order to be a healer.
"I can tell you with complete certainty one can be a healer, shaman, teacher, or Reiki Master without being a flake.
The shift toward flakiness is curious. I am grateful that the dogmatic version of spiritu...
Co-Regulation and Healthy Relationships
Co-Regulation is when two people provide support for each other as a means of creating emotional safety, security, and connection. We need to connect with other people. It is that simple. There is a lot of information out there that convinces people that the goal is to be "self-sufficient" as if that is possible even if it were true. There never has been and never will be a time when being self-sufficient is best for us. Besides, we need food, shelter, the earth, sun and moon, water, air, clothing, beds, transportation, tools, machines, soil, trees, etc.; we need others whether we like it or not! We are not built to be self-sufficient, and that is a blessing!
We are wired to be connected with other people and possibly other species. Many of us were not taught or demonstrated how to do this in a healthy, safe manner. This makes the illusion of trying to be self-sufficient seductive and tempting. We want to find a more straightforward method than investing the time and energy required to build these safe and healthy relationships. We want an easy way out where it is unnecessary to lean into our fears of connection and intimacy.
Most folks are terrified of letting others in and allowing ourselves to be that vulnerable and exposed.So what do we do? We begin by creating inner safety and a sense of security that "I will be OK no matter what." This sense of safety and security provides the foundation for us to trust others because we know we are solid and secure. They may hurt us, but we will survive and, over time, thrive. Connection with others is what supports us in being independent....
Women Share First Experiences With Reiki – Does Reiki Really Work?
As a Reiki Master and Practitioner for more than twenty-five years, I am aware of the many people's skepticism and empty experiences with Reiki over the years. To be transparent, I, too, was skeptical before I experienced Reiki and its healing properties. These first experiences with Reiki that are less than desirable have prevented folks from experiencing the beauty and healing of Reiki; this is true more now than ever because there are so many people trained in Reiki in either a watered-down version or do not embrace the inner practice of integrating Reiki into their life, not just when working on others.
I have listened to people, mostly women, share their experiences of Reiki practitioners violating physical, emotional, and even sexual boundaries during Reiki sessions! This is tragic for the people who had these first experiences with Reiki that are harmful, and their friends and family who have learned about Reiki from them and understandably keep a safe distance from Reiki.
Reiki has been incredibly life-changing for me, which is why I practice and train students in the need for strong and clear Reiki boundaries and ALWAYS receiving consent before placing their hands on somebody else! Reiki Ethics have gotten lost in the last decade or so.
I hope you appreciate this brief article sharing women's first experiences with Reiki....
First Degree Reiki Training December 10 & 11!
A Special First Degree Reiki Training Saturday & Sunday December 10 & 11, 2022 from 1:00-6:00. First Degree Traditional Usui Reiki Training is where all new Reiki students begin their Reiki Training. In this class, students receive all four First Degree Reiki Attunements, practice sharing and receiving Reiki and be ready to share Reiki with friends, family and emergency situations. First Degree Traditional Usui Reiki Training is offered as a two-day Training. The fee for the two-day training is $175. Location in Warren, RI.
Rhode Island Reiki Training - The Usui ...
Porn Addiction, Loneliness and Connection
Porn addiction is increasing at a rapid pace. We know that access to online porn continues to create loneliness, disconnection, and porn addiction. But is porn the actual problem? Again, we come back to Johann Hari's findings. His research and personal experiences, as well as my own, support the theory that addictions often lack meaningful connection(s). This applies to porn addiction as well. The work we do in recovery from porn addiction includes focusing on creating new connections and strengthening those already existing. These connections and forming new habits can begin the process of feeling safe and a sense of belonging, all foundations of a sustainable recovery....
Addiction Is Not The Drugs, It’s The ACEs
Being Better Humans Support Group (Online)!
Come join the circle!
What are we doing?
We are a support group of people discussing their honest feelings on relationships, drugs, love, sex, money, and work. We’ll pick a topic, trade stories, have a moderated discussion, and maybe scream, cry, or yell (if needed). We’ll dive in deep and not let fear keep us from expressing who we really are. We’ll explore what makes us amazing and far from amazing, where we need to grow and what gets in the way of growing, how to trust ourselves and others and what obstacles get in the way of trust. We’ll find what environments support our safety, and how to set boundaries in those that don’t. Most importantly, we’ll just practice being our authentic selves. We may include meditation, movement and other practices designed to create clarity, presence and truth. What we do will be guided by what shows up at every session. We will have assignments between sessions to reflect more deeply and practice whatever we worked on together.
