Gender
7 Double Standards That Hurt Men and Women
I have followed and read The Good Men Project for years. I find their commitment is very helpful in shaping how, as a culture, we move forward toward equality and raising amazing boys and girls. I wanted to share with you 7 Double Standards That Hurt Men and Women. The double standards it highlights illustrate how we can create negative impressions of men and women without even noticing. These stereotypes hurt all of us. I am curious of the seven double standards they explore, which is the one that you find the most glaring?
Men who live life differently often run ...
All You Need Is Love: Experts on The Changing Face of Modern Romance
What is Modern Romance? Is Modern Romance online dating? Is Modern Romance the same across racial, cultural, and socio-economic lines? How do you experience Modern Romance? Has modern sensibilities killed Modern Romance, or has it grounded dating and love in a way that allows us to be free and equal?
Let's see what these dating and relationship experts across several fields have to say about Modern Romance!
All you need is love: experts on the changing face of modern romance
How are we to make sense of the swiftly changing world of ...
Rules For Fair Fighting In Relationships
Rules for fair fighting. It sounds like an oxymoron. If you take a minute to reflect, most of us suck when it comes to arguing and fighting with the people we love. I was not talking about your partner; I'm talking about you. Me too. Of all the things that we are taught by our families, friends, schools, and culture, children are rarely well-trained in how to manage conflict in a meaningful and productive way. Let's explore one of the many sets of rules for fair fighting in relationships together.
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Why Nice Guys Stay Single – So Do Bad Boys
When I first saw the heading "Why Nice Guys Stay Single", I rolled my eyes; at least I tried. I have never perfected eye-rolling. I thought to myself, "Another article written by a bitter, single woman who likes bad boys who treat her like shit". I was completely wrong. I have no idea if Kathryn Hogan is single, but she is definitely not bitter and incredibly perceptive.
Here is a quote from this article; if this does not move you, there is no need to read further.
"What women—evolved, mature, powerful women—actually need is a man who embodies the divinity of manhood. This may sound mystical, but it’s not. Every man is sacred, can touch the sacred masculine within him, can be a man who stands in compassion, loyalty, and honor, who cares enough to realize that only his true, unfiltered presence is good enough for this world. A man with a powerful heart, who can hold a woman in his presence, who can weather her emotional storms, who is nourished by being near her, and sees her divinity, and gives endlessly of himself."This article explores why being a nice guy will only get you so far. You must dive deeper into yourself and express everything that makes you. The real you. The authentic you. Nice guys are men who are hiding from themselves and the women they wish to connect with and love. No more Mr. Nice Guy (see Alice Cooper song below for kicks).
Women & Booze: Is Everything We Know About Alcoholism Wrong? – mindbodygreen.com
This is an interesting article on Women & Booze. The main thesis is that men and women interact with alcohol differently. Therefore, Alcoholics Anonymous is not the best option for women since many are not alcoholics, according to the author. There are several important points she raises about women & booze, such as the lack of ability of A.A. to adapt and update program elements that may not make sense any longer or maybe never did. This is valid, and I have presented similar thoughts before. In addition, the chapter "To Wives" was not actually written ...
They Are Real People – Inspiring Video – The Game
They are real people. We are real people. Respect, love, and support are neither foreign nor hard to do. "The Game" is an inspiring video created by One Student. It is awesome to see young people, particularly men, stand up and speak out against sexual assault. This was unheard of when I was a student. The young men who may have wanted to stand were squashed by the bigger, stronger, and/or louder guys. It was disguised as, "Boys will be boys", or pressured into silence by both men and women. These women are real people, not just statistics. It was the "thing" that nobody wanted to discuss, which is how it seemed. I was unaware of anyone willing to have these kinds of discussions, but the crowd I ran with was why I have that perception.
As I reflect on this further, I clearly remember that the African-American college community was active in regularly discussing race, class, and gender. I had several friends within the community and would sometimes be present during these honest and often tense discussions—real people having real conversations.
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