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25 Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying a Word

Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series - Conscious Coupling - Providence Holistic Counseling Services
I thought 25 Ways to Say "I Love You" Without Saying a Word might be helpful to those wondering what works and what doesn't from the perspective of a couples counselor. I have not edited or reordered the list. I left 25 Ways to Say "I Love You" Without Saying a Word | Winifred M. Reilly the way it was originally written....

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The Number One Reason Most Relationships Struggle

Listening as An Art and Skill for Improving Relationships - Providence Holistic Counseling Services
The number one reason most relationships struggle is not lying, cheating, arguing, money, sex, child care, or even division of labor. The number one reason is communication. I know that sounds simple, but many couples avoid important conversations for fear of how their partner will react. Many people struggle with listening, not just so they can give a good reply but to actually hear what their partner is saying. ...

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Providence Dating Coach Success Series – Changing Dishonest Dating Culture

Changing Dishonest Dating Culture - Providence Life Coaching Dating Success Series - Providence Holistic Counseling Services - honesty and transparency
Isn't it time to change the dishonest dating culture? Have we had enough of men and women pretending to be something they're not when dating a new potential partner? Why do honesty and dating concepts rarely intersect? Does anybody really enjoy finding out that eight months later, the person they are dating has nothing to do with the person they first met?  Why are we so afraid to show others who we really are? Is it because many of us do not know the answer to the question, Who Am I?  What would be your experience with dating if you could just be yourself? What if dating first impressions were an accurate representation of ourselves?...

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Does Kindness Make You More Attractive? Research Says Yes!

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I suspect that all counselors and therapists know that kindness makes you more attractive. It is helpful to see research that supports this premise. The research itself is limited but still has merit. On a personal level, I think I have always sensed that those who express positive character traits seem more attractive, if for no other reason than I find anger, dishonesty, and hate unattractive....

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Things Your Couples Counselor Already Knows About Your Relationship

Before We Fall In Love - Providence Holistic Counseling Services

We all know every relationship is unique. We also know that most relationships have many similar characteristics. As a Relationship Coach and Couples Counselor, I smiled when I read 6 Things Your Couples Therapist Already Knows About Your Relationship by , on Huffington Post. Truly, there are things your couples counselor already knows about your relationship. I included an excerpt and their list from the original article, but you will need to read the article for Abby Rodman's particular take on couples counseling.  I would also like to add to the list, The Relationship Blame Game.

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The Feminist Guide To Non-Creepy Flirting

Feminist Guide to Non-Creepy Flirting - Providence Holistic Counseling Services

I was reading The Feminist Guide to Non-Creepy Flirting and thought it may be helpful to share with readers. I know many men see the word "feminist" and immediately stop reading or become defensive. For the men that this applies to, I invite you to hang in there and reap the benefits of the wisdom and knowledge helping you connect with women that you want to meet. I do not believe anything that is written below is either offensive or disrespectful. In fact, I wish when I was young, the information that is shared here was available to me. I am certain many women along the way would have been grateful as well! I hope you enjoy the Feminist Guide to Non-Creepy Flirting as much as I did....

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The Relationship Blame Game

Spiritual Change: Tie Your Shoes Different - Providence Holistic Counseling Services
Couples counseling can be a window into how couples communicate in relationships. I have noticed lately how many couples play the relationship blame game. The relationship blame game is when both people in the relationship name all the problems that have caused conflict, stress, pressure, distance, or any other relationship challenges as being due to their partner, not themselves. This is what I call the relationship blame game....

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