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Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series – Conscious Coupling
Conscious coupling seems to be getting a lot of press these days; celebrities tend to make this sort of thing happen - Madonna at The Kabbalah Centre and Julia Roberts with Hindu are examples of when they speak openly about religion or spirituality. I am not sure why this happens, but it does. I have never seen celebrities as people I wanted to be like, at least not those in the entertainment industry. Growing up, many athletes gave their time to worthy causes that I looked up to for that reason in the 60's and 70's. I have never felt drawn to the fact that "so and so" said something means it is something important or of value. However, it does seem that Richard Gere's My Journey with Buddhism has really committed to the study and practice of Tibetan Buddhism without making it feel like a publicity stunt. I happened to be participating in the Kalachakra with The Dalai Llama back in 2000 with Richard Gere and other famous people present for the ten days of spiritual training. They all kept a low profile with no autographs or photos, just like everyone else receiving the training....
Overcoming Fear is Not as Easy as a Bumper Sticker Slogan
I bumped into this article today by accident: Overcoming Fear is Not as Easy as a Bumper Sticker Slogan. I am very grateful for this and the many accidents I make that guide me to where I need to be, not always where I want to be. Overcoming fear can be paralyzing to some people in certain circumstances. Fear is the four-letter word that begins with "F," which can feel like a much dirtier word than its profane counterpart F**K. I remember hearing something annoying, cute, and comforting many years ago: FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.
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What’s The Point?
What’s the Point? The other day, I met with a young couple who are going through a pretty difficult stretch in their relationship. Amongst the various struggles, the one that was the loudest for me during and after our session was their collective sense of “What’s the point?” I think all of us as individuals, couples, families, and as a society have, on some level, experienced the question, “What’s the point?”...
Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series – Who Am I?
In the last segment of the Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series, we discussed that your best foot forward is to be yourself. So you’ve decided you want to show up on a date as yourself, “just being you”. The next task in being you is to figure out Who Am I. Unfortunately, most of us don’t know who we are....
Providence Life Coach: Dating First Impressions
We have all experienced preparing for a first date with a relative, stranger, or acquaintance. Fear and doubt, mixed with the joy and hope of meeting an amazing partner, lover, or both, fill our minds and bodies leading up to the designated meet. We all know deep inside that first impressions are critical to the dating experience's success or failure. It is not the way it should be in a perfect world, but it is the way it is in our world, at least currently....
Listening as An Art and Skill for Improving Relationships
There was a time when I used to be the guy who talked more than he listened; that may still be true, but the difference is that I listen today. I do not just hear your words when you speak; I actually listen to you. The difference may seem subtle on the surface; my experience demonstrates that the results are fairly profound. People enjoy being acknowledged and recognized; who doesn’t want the person they are communicating with to understand what they are saying?
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Is Life A Series of Important Events or Processes?
I was reflecting the other morning on how we tend to think of life as a series of important events that mold and shape our world. As I sat with this thought for a while, it occurred to me that events are rarely events. They tend to be a process that has culminated with a defining experience; the “event” was just a larger experience in a longer, more defined process.
