76 results for tag: Dating and Relationships
Why Nice Guys Stay Single – So Do Bad Boys
When I first saw the heading "Why Nice Guys Stay Single", I rolled my eyes; at least I tried. I have never perfected eye-rolling. I thought to myself, "Another article written by a bitter, single woman who likes bad boys who treat her like shit". I was completely wrong. I have no idea if Kathryn Hogan is single, but she is definitely not bitter and incredibly perceptive.
Here is a quote from this article; if this does not move you, there is no need to read further.
"What women—evolved, mature, powerful women—actually need is a man who embodies the divinity of manhood. This may sound mystical, but it’s not. Every man is sacred, can touch the sacred masculine within him, can be a man who stands in compassion, loyalty, and honor, who cares enough to realize that only his true, unfiltered presence is good enough for this world. A man with a powerful heart, who can hold a woman in his presence, who can weather her emotional storms, who is nourished by being near her, and sees her divinity, and gives endlessly of himself."This article explores why being a nice guy will only get you so far. You must dive deeper into yourself and express everything that makes you. The real you. The authentic you. Nice guys are men who are hiding from themselves and the women they wish to connect with and love. No more Mr. Nice Guy (see Alice Cooper song below for kicks).
They Are Real People – Inspiring Video – The Game
They are real people. We are real people. Respect, love, and support are neither foreign nor hard to do. "The Game" is an inspiring video created by One Student. It is awesome to see young people, particularly men, stand up and speak out against sexual assault. This was unheard of when I was a student. The young men who may have wanted to stand were squashed by the bigger, stronger, and/or louder guys. It was disguised as, "Boys will be boys", or pressured into silence by both men and women. These women are real people, not just statistics. It was the "thing" that nobody wanted to discuss, which is how it seemed. I was unaware of anyone willing to have these kinds of discussions, but the crowd I ran with was why I have that perception.
As I reflect on this further, I clearly remember that the African-American college community was active in regularly discussing race, class, and gender. I had several friends within the community and would sometimes be present during these honest and often tense discussions—real people having real conversations.
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... Cheaters On Cheating – Why Do Cheaters Cheat?
Have you ever been in a relationship with a cheater? Have you ever cheated on someone else? What do you consider cheating? Do you think cheating and cheaters are the same for men and women or Americans and Europeans? Superdrug Online Doctor surveyed over 2000 women and men cheaters and shared the results in Cheaters On Cheating. I have posted the entire article on cheaters and cheating here for you to read. I have included the references below; many of the sources cited are not the most reliable. I am sharing this with you to facilitate thought and conversation. I encourage you not to take this as scientific data, just content on cheaters and ...
A Valuable Life Lesson – The Mayonnaise Jar
A Valuable Life Lesson For A Happier Life is an interesting demonstration of some important life lessons about priorities and relationships.
https://youtu.be/SqGRnlXplx0
What are your thoughts on A Valuable Life Lesson For A Happier Life? Does it apply to your relationships, career, family, health or spiritual life? What do you disagree with this demonstration of A Valuable Life Lesson For A Happier Life?
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You’re Basically Good — The Benefits of Contemplative Psychotherapy
You're basically good. This perspective is often left out of modern Western counseling, therapy, and life coaching. Here in the West, the typical approach focuses on what is wrong with you and what needs to be "fixed". The counselor, therapist, or life coach gets paid as long as you are "sick" or "need" them to function in the world. This is not my approach to working with clients. I assume you're basically good. You have what you need inside you to be successful in life and relationships. You know what you need. You have as much strength, courage, wisdom, and love as necessary to enjoy your work, family, friends, relationships, and the world around you. I see my role as the facilitator in helping you bring these qualities to the surface so you can be a productive member of society and achieve what you came here to do in this life.
Although the practices described in the article below are not exactly what I do, there are many similarities, and the concepts feel like they come from the same place. I hope you enjoy reading this piece. I think it is fascinating and inspiring. How about you?
Spiritual Bypassing, Relationships and The Shadow
I first started becoming aware of spiritual bypassing a few years ago. My eyes opened wide as I was reading the page in front of me. "A spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks" John Welwood & Tina Fossella. This was it! This was the thing I had been aware of for years in myself and others that I had not known what it was or how to describe it! I was so excited that there really was such a "thing," and it had a name.
I have cut out parts of the article below, but most of the content on spiritual bypassing is included.
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Building Bridges or Building Walls
In relationships, we typically either build bridges or walls. When we build bridges, we work towards connection, intimacy, and safety. In contrast, when we build walls, we move towards distance, isolation, discomfort, and/or lack of safety. When we think about conflict resolution, it usually comes down to building bridges or walls.
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