3 results for tag: Physical Attractiveness
Self-Perception: Barb
It was 1993, and I had recently moved to a new area of New Jersey where I knew few people. We were both attending meetings of the same self-help group. It had been six months since the first time I saw Barb. I fell for her before she even opened her mouth. She was soft, warm, and genuine in her walk and demeanor. When she opened her mouth to speak, there were no more questions; I wanted to get to know her. The only thing between Barb and I was self-perception, which was mine.
Self-Perception and Shyness
A common trait for me, then and now, is being shy and intimidated by women I find attractive. Besides the obvious challenge of shyness, I would ...
Drop Dead Gorgeous Syndrome – Curse, Blessing or Both?
As a teenager, I was convinced every "pretty girl" had the perfect life. All they had to do was smile. I was not an attractive teen and felt cheated by life. Little did I know about this thing called the Drop Dead Gorgeous Syndrome. The drop-dead gorgeous syndrome is when a super-attractive woman loses herself and becomes addicted to and enslaved by her physical appearance. Her identity depends on what we think of how she looks at any given time, not her achievements, intelligence, character, talents, or sense of Self. I will not lie; I hated drop-dead gorgeous girls when I was younger. It is an embarrassing admission but real. I was jealous and felt like I had no chance to ever be with one of the "pretty girls," and this made me feel less masculine. Fortunately, I do not think this way today. The following experience is based on an actual event that happened many years ago. I have altered some facts to hide the identity of the woman involved out of respect for her and her privacy....
Does Kindness Make You More Attractive? Research Says Yes!
I suspect that all counselors and therapists know that kindness makes you more attractive. It is helpful to see research that supports this premise. The research itself is limited but still has merit. On a personal level, I think I have always sensed that those who express positive character traits seem more attractive, if for no other reason than I find anger, dishonesty, and hate unattractive....
