Parenting & Family

The Art of Not Trying – Wu Wei

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One of the most significant challenges in modern American life is learning and mastering the art of not trying. We are taught as children and adults that the more we do, the better person we will become. It does not matter if it is more work, more money, more alcohol, more sex, more vacations, or more fun; we must do more.  We are a culture of doing, not being. Our value and status are often directly related to how much we do. And if we think about it, doing it is usually directly connected to how hard we try. If we try harder, we will do more and, therefore, be a better person. When we scrape it all away, it is about doing and trying more and harder. The art of not trying is contrary to this cultural belief system....

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Think You Are Not Good Enough? Please Read

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I think all of us, at some point or another, question whether we are good enough. This is why I wanted to share with you 8 Things To Remember When You Think You're Not Good Enough from Collective Evolution. This insightful piece by Joe Martino does an excellent job of offering thoughts on shifting that moment when we think we are not good enough to accept ourselves as we are....

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Keep Your Promises: Your Kids Rely On It

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If you have never read the blog Almighty Dad, I invite you to do so. Keith is a thoughtful and dedicated parent who shares his experiences, successes, and challenges.  When I first read his post, Keep Your Promises Your: Kids Rely On It, I felt a pinch in my belly. Who has not experienced being let down on a promise by your parents as a child or making a promise to a child and not fulfilling it? The expression on a child's face when you don't keep your promises is downright painful to see! Is there a greater disappointment for a child than when you do not keep your promises?...

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What is The Difference Between Freedom and Lack of Self-Discipline?

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Identifying the difference between freedom and lack of self-discipline is an essential teaching on our journey as spiritual beings. Thich Nhat Hanh offers us perspective to help those struggling with this important concern for anyone with or wanting to have a spiritual practice, whether it is meditation, Hatha Yoga, Tai Qi, Qi Gong or any other regular spiritual practice....

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Things Your Couples Counselor Already Knows About Your Relationship

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We all know every relationship is unique. We also know that most relationships have many similar characteristics. As a Relationship Coach and Couples Counselor, I smiled when I read 6 Things Your Couples Therapist Already Knows About Your Relationship by , on Huffington Post. Truly, there are things your couples counselor already knows about your relationship. I included an excerpt and their list from the original article, but you will need to read the article for Abby Rodman's particular take on couples counseling.  I would also like to add to the list, The Relationship Blame Game.

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Music and Memory – Alive Inside

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Music has been a part of my life since early childhood, like many of us. I remember when my dad used to bring me home 45s of The Beatles, and I was ecstatic. The next stage in my musical connection developed in adolescence through my teen years. Like many teenagers, music was the heart and soul of my life and one of the few places I felt safe and understood. In my late teens, I became a disc jockey, and I have done so at various times throughout my adulthood. When the mess that was my teens and 20s began to shift, music again was at the core of my development and a safe place for me to go when I felt overwhelmed or fearful. Today, I cannot imagine life without music! My relationship with music typically mirrors my relationship with myself. When I first stumbled upon the website of Music and Memory, I was thrilled and almost began to cry watching the video of The Story of Henry. The Music and Memory iPod Project is amazing! I invite you to read some of the content below from their website and view a few of their videos, including the trailer to Alive Inside The Music and Memory Story....

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Men That Try Too Hard

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Men get a bad rap. If the only thing you knew about men in America came from watching TV, movies, and listening to music, you would think all of us are angry, violent, lazy men hanging out on the couch, watching sports, and playing video games all day. A chunk of the American male population indeed fits this description, but not all of us.  Generally speaking, men that try too hard are rarely in the news or make headlines, we are doing what we do with humility and anonymity....

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