14 results for tag: Providence Teen Counseling


Rhode Island Teen Coaching and Teen Counseling

I offer Teen Coaching and Counseling for youth and families. I have worked with teens and their families since 1993 and love the work! Please visit My Work and Training to learn more about what I do, and My Influences will tell you who have been my teachers, models, and influences. I work outside the box and refuse to accept that any teenager cannot find their way in this world with creativity, motivation, and the right support. ...

Boyhood – An Inside Look

Last week, we watched the incredibly creative film Boyhood. Along with enjoying the content and acting in the movie, I was impressed with the unique methods used to produce the film, which are outlined below. What struck me was how rare it is to see film or TV accurately or honestly tell the story of teenage boyhood, including the experiences of the boy himself. We typically do a fine job of showing what teenage boys do: sports, eating, technology, girls/boys, video games, violence, anger, sex, risky behaviors, etc., but we don't do such a good job of sharing their experiences. We do this profusely in the media with teenage girls; most people over the age of twelve can tell you in detail what it is like to be a teenage girl. We have many classic and not-so-classic books, films, and TV shows about girls coming of age and the experiences related to their transitions. Not so much for boys....

Drop Dead Gorgeous Syndrome – Curse, Blessing or Both?

As a teenager, I was convinced every "pretty girl" had the perfect life. All they had to do was smile. I was not an attractive teen and felt cheated by life. Little did I know about this thing called the Drop Dead Gorgeous Syndrome. The drop-dead gorgeous syndrome is when a super-attractive woman loses herself and becomes addicted to and enslaved by her physical appearance. Her identity depends on what we think of how she looks at any given time, not her achievements, intelligence, character, talents, or sense of Self. I will not lie; I hated drop-dead gorgeous girls when I was younger. It is an embarrassing admission but real. I was jealous and felt like I had no chance to ever be with one of the "pretty girls," and this made me feel less masculine. Fortunately, I do not think this way today. The following experience is based on an actual event that happened many years ago. I have altered some facts to hide the identity of the woman involved out of respect for her and her privacy....

Doubt

Doubt. Just writing the word stirs something inside me. I'm aware of feeling uncomfortable just seeing it, and since I'm using voice recognition software, saying it out loud. Doubt. Where does doubt come from? Are we taught doubt? Is doubt ingrained in our DNA? I wonder how much our life experiences influence the degree of doubt that expresses itself in our minds and bodies. ...

Stop Stalking and Start Talking – Stalking in Relationships

It is hard to know exactly what has created a culture of snooping and stalking in relationships; my gut tells me it has something to do with reality TV shows like The Jersey Shore and The Real Housewives. These shows center around narcissistic people who focus on gossip, competition, and jealousy, which promotes dishonesty and a lack of trust for the people we love in our lives. Social media outlets like Facebook and Twitter help create an environment where honesty, authenticity, and genuine connection are not core values....

Why You Don’t Need To Be Right All The Time

The need to be right can, at times, feel like a drug. Our culture often reinforces this need to be right all the time through the media, politics, and our education system. But what if you found out the reasons why you don't need to be right all the time? Is knowing the potential consequences of needing to be right all the time enough to create space for letting the rest of the 7 billion people who you share the planet with also be right sometimes?...

A Social Experiment in First Impressions

I thought this was an interesting social experiment in first impressions. I do not think it proves anything, but it is still interesting. It is fun watching the different responses people have as they interpret characteristics of people based on little more than first impressions. I think it would be fun to conduct a similar experiment with a variable that isn't part of a marketing campaign....