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25 Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying a Word

Providence Life Coach Dating Success Series - Conscious Coupling - Providence Holistic Counseling Services
I thought 25 Ways to Say "I Love You" Without Saying a Word might be helpful to those wondering what works and what doesn't from the perspective of a couples counselor. I have not edited or reordered the list. I left 25 Ways to Say "I Love You" Without Saying a Word | Winifred M. Reilly the way it was originally written....

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Fear of Silence – It Can Be Loud

Meditation Retreat at Portsmouth Abbey - Providence Life Coaching & Spiritual Training

The fear of silence runs deep. For many of us, the fear of silence shows up when we are lying in bed at three in the morning with a "freight train brain" and can't fall back asleep. For others, the fear of silence is loudest when sitting at a bus stop or a restaurant by ourselves. Technology has found a way for us to temporarily escape our fear of silence. We do not have to deal with our fear of silence because we can always push a button for instant stimulation. Does pushing buttons actually quell our fear of silence? What if we made the conscious choice to actually sit and be in silence instead of trying to escape it? What do you think we can learn about ourselves and each other in silence?...

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Providence Dating Success Series – How We Date Now

Before We Fall In Love - Providence Holistic Counseling Services
If this is how we date now, dating has changed. Everything has changed, so why not dating as well? I was reading the following article, This Is How We Date Now, and found it stimulating and disturbing. I do not have direct experience with this world of dating. My relationships, past and present, are not on display on Facebook, Twitter, or anywhere else. Even before the Internet, I have never been one desiring to create happy, shining photographs posing with fake smiles. The fact that I have never felt moved to do so does not mean I do not understand the need to document life as positive and happy. My denial expresses itself differently....

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The Art of Not Trying – Wu Wei

The Art of Not Trying - Wu Wei Providence life coaching and Reiki counseling-- lets do nothing comic
One of the most significant challenges in modern American life is learning and mastering the art of not trying. We are taught as children and adults that the more we do, the better person we will become. It does not matter if it is more work, more money, more alcohol, more sex, more vacations, or more fun; we must do more.  We are a culture of doing, not being. Our value and status are often directly related to how much we do. And if we think about it, doing it is usually directly connected to how hard we try. If we try harder, we will do more and, therefore, be a better person. When we scrape it all away, it is about doing and trying more and harder. The art of not trying is contrary to this cultural belief system....

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Biofield Therapies: Helpful Or Full Of Hype? Review Looks At Reiki, Therapeutic Touch And Healing Touch

Biofield Therapies: Helpful Or Full Of Hype? Review Looks At Reiki, Therapeutic Touch And Healing Touch - Providence life coaching and Reiki counseling
As we continue to explore research on biofield therapies, including Reiki, it is important to consider that many researchers have an agenda when conducting their work. Biofield therapies are still considered controversial.  I am curious when biofield therapies like Reiki will no longer be called "complementary and alternative medicine". I find it interesting that biofield therapies like Reiki, some of which have been around for thousands of years, are considered "alternative medicine," and allopathic medicine, relatively new, is called "traditional medicine". Somehow, those two phrases do not logically make sense based on which is traditional and which is the new "alternative". I'm interested in your thoughts and perceptions on the following review: Biofield Therapies: Helpful or Full of Hype?...

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The Number One Reason Most Relationships Struggle

Listening as An Art and Skill for Improving Relationships - Providence Holistic Counseling Services
The number one reason most relationships struggle is not lying, cheating, arguing, money, sex, child care, or even division of labor. The number one reason is communication. I know that sounds simple, but many couples avoid important conversations for fear of how their partner will react. Many people struggle with listening, not just so they can give a good reply but to actually hear what their partner is saying. ...

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